The Audacity
The Art of "Courting"
Yes, I said it, courting! Courting is not a word used by today's
society, most of us have heard it from our Parents and/or Grandparents! In my
eyes, courting is another word for chivalry!!
Really, is
Chivalry dead? Maybe it's dead in Atlanta! But, hey, maybe I'm wrong! I've ran into a few guys here that really want something for nothing!! Or they feel like "buying" a female will get them what they want! I'm not really the old-fashioned type of gal, but, I'm like every woman, I like to be pursued!
Guys, it's really not that hard! If you want "Us'" you have to work for "us!" Play your cards right and you will receive love and harmony in return! It's no distance a woman wouldn't go for a man that she truly cares about! Let me lend you a few tips!
1. Be sincere, don't run game!!
- Sincere is another way to use the word Honesty! I understand, some
women can't handle the truth! But some of us can, try it! Sincerity,
goes a long way! We want a man that means well and not a man that's
telling us BS! Be sincere, mean what you say and say what you mean!
2. Take us out!
-Initially, women doesn't want to "hang" out with you! We don't want
to "chill!" We don't want you to come to our house to hang out AND
chill! Sit on our couch, watch our TV and eat our food; we don't want
that! Simply put! All because, WE DON'T KNOW YOU! Remember, We are
trying to get to know you! Hanging out and chilling comes later!
When courting a woman, take her out on dates! Dutch dates doesn't
approve here! Dutch + Dates =
Friend Zone! Believe me, you'll get
treated like one! Be different and original! Dinner and movies can be
fun, but eventually become mundane! Initially, dinner dates are a
'go,' you can converse with one another in a mutual setting! To be
different, try Going to a museum, concert or water park! Try having ice
cream and a walk thru the park! Walking and talking is easy, open and
laid back!
3. Open doors! All of them!
-Self explanatory! No woman should have to open any doors when she is
with you! If you're BOTH getting into a car or walking into a
building, go ahead, open her door, let her in FIRST!
4. Compliment us! Take notice!
- Every woman likes a compliment! Women spend valuable time to look as
good as they do, compliment us! Take notice to our eyes, make-up,
smile, outfit, shoes etc! One compliment goes a long way, it makes us
feel special! Stay away from being a "creepy guy" though! Please don't
over do it! Calm down on words like fine, sexy or bad, replace them
with beautiful or gorgeous!
5. Try Phone conversations, not just text convos
In the age of Technology, people want things fast and quick! Everyone
texts, because it's so easy and convenient .... its Universal! It's
not anything wrong with having small talk via text message, with your
friend, co-worker or significant other! But, when you're getting to
know a person put your fingers to rest! Call her, take time to really
get to know her! Have a real conversation, ask questions!
6. Give us your undivided attention:
*Listen to what we have to say, give your input, have a conversation!
* Do things special, just because!
*Remember the simple things we say, use it "against" us.
Ex: If she tells you how much she loves Ciroc Red Berry, buy her
bottle for her and her friends to drink on a "girls night out!"
Ex: She tells you that Maxwell is her fav artist, surprise her with
tickets to the next show!
*** I bet she will be on your side****
I know chivalry is not dead, at least I hope it's not! I'm not saying
that men should bend over backwards for every woman he encounters, but
When men shows their interest and their intentions, woman come back
harder an stronger! Good Luck
-The Audacity
